Category Archives: relationship advice

How Can You Build Resilient Relationships?



Melody Stanford Martin joins the show to discuss her article “Five Practices of Resilient Relationships” and teach us how to enhance our conflict resolution skills.

Melody Stanford Martin is a social ethicist, communications expert, and author of Brave Talk: Building Resilient Relationships in the Face of Conflict (Broadleaf Books, 2020). She is the Founder of educational platform Brave Talk Project, the Founder & CEO of Cambridge Creative Group, a narrative marketing and design company specializing in non-profit outreach, and a regular contributor to Psychology Today. Melody grew up as a Pentecostal pastor’s kid in California and studied theology for ten years, obtaining her Masters of Divinity in 2016. During her graduate studies, she developed a passion for social ethics and anti-oppression work through the Religion and Conflict Transformation Program at Boston University School of Theology. Today, Melody works with people across all political backgrounds and religious traditions, focusing on rhetorical innovation, courageous community engagement, and out-of-the-box thinking to solve social problems. In addition to her work, Melody is also an artist, musician and avid gardener. She lives in Portland, Maine with her partner Corey and their dogs, Baxter and Benedict Cumberbatch.

To read the Five Practices of Resilient Relationships click here.

Click here to purchase Melody’s book Brave Talk.

For more information on Base Camp click here.

To sign up for Melody’s workshops and classes click here.


Is Porn Addiction A Disorder?



Sari Cooper joins the show to discuss if porn addiction is a disorder and how to communicate better when it comes to all things sex!

Sari Cooper  LCSW-R, CST is the Director of Center for Love and Sex, a group practice specializing in holistic embodied sex therapy and sex coaching in NYC. She is an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor who has been seeing individuals and couples from diverse cultural, religious, and sexual orientation and practices for over 20 years.  Sari presents frequently at international professional conferences on helping individuals and couples heal from infidelity, out of control sexual behaviors, sexual communication, low desire, sexual disorders, consensual non-monogamy and expanding sexual practices. She is Kink and Poly aware and a culturally attuned therapist who frequently sees interracial couples.

Sari is also the creator of Sex Esteem® LLC, a company devoted to enriching people’s confidence and knowledge about their own sexuality, the choices in their relationship agreements and how to communicate with partners about the sex life they desire. Through creative live events, webinars and her Sex Esteem® talks she is cultivating a community ready to take on the topic of erotic desire, sexual pleasure, empowerment and exploration .

She is frequently called upon in the media to comment on relationships and sexuality issues. She has been interviewed on outlets like: CBS This Morning, The Wall Street Journal, NBCLX, Women’s Health, Lifehacker, Bustle, HuffPost and Vice Media.

You can follow her on:

Facebook: @centerforloveandsex,

Twitter: @saricoopercls

Instagram: @saricoopersexesteem.

Her site is www.centerforloveandsex.com

You can sign up to stay connected about upcoming Sex Esteem® events at: centerforloveandsex.com/se-events.


Does Social Media Cause Depression?



Dr. Lea Lis, The Shameless Psychiatrist, stops by to chat about if social media causes depression in teens and adult. She gives a brief overview of her new book!

Dr. Lea Lis is the ‘Shameless Psychiatrist.’ She is a double board certified Adult and Child psychiatrist, and Assistant Clinical Professor at New York Medical College. She has a bustling practice in the Hamptons where she sees patients from all family arrangements.

Her book “No Shame: Real Talk With Your Kids About Sex, Self-Confidence, and Healthy Relationships” helps people pass down intergenerational wisdom, instead of trauma, by using modern psychotherapy techniques which she perfected throughout her many years of experience. She is an expert in the field of psychology, and hopes to change the way we speak about sex.

Learn more about Dr. Lea Lis here:

WEBSITE: www.drlealis.com

INSTAGRAM:[https://www.instagram..com/shamelesspsychiatrist/] @shamelesspsychiatrist

TWITTER: @shamelesspsych

FACEBOOK: @drlealis


Ask The Experts #1



Dr. Denise Fournier and Dr. Candice Creasman join me to answer your questions that have arisen during the pandemic.

You can find more information about Dr. Creasman’s Insight Timer class on Healing Your Inner Critic HERE

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Check out Dr Fournier’s Instagram meditations HERE


How Do You Attract, Maintain and End Relationships Mindfully?



Dr, Denise Fournier visits to discuss how to attract, maintain, and end relationships from a conscious, self-aware space.
Dr. Denise Fournier is a Miami-based psychotherapist, coach, university professor, and facilitator. With over 15 years in the mental health field, she’s worked with several hundred people, guiding them on their own unique growth journeys. She facilitates safe and sacred spaces for people to connect inward, work through challenges, define their own unique self-expression, and discover the healer and teacher living inside of them. Denise’s unique psychospiritual approach blends evidence-based mental health modalities with ancient traditions that unify the mind, body, and spirit.
Interested in receiving personalized coaching from Dr. Fournier? Beginning in Jan 2020 she will be providing remote services through  https://denisefournier.com/.

You can also check out her Psychology Today blog HERE

As well as her practice’s homepage HERE


Are You A People Pleaser?



Dr. Ilene Cohen answers my questions about people pleasing. She discusses the difference between being nice and being a people pleaser, the causes of people pleasing, and gives an eight step guide to stopping the compulsion!

Dr. Ilene is a psychotherapist, blogger and award-winning author of the popular self-help guides, When It’s Never About You and It’s Within You. Her work regularly appears in top psychology publications.

You can buy her books HERE!

And you can read her blog HERE!


Silencing Your Inner Critic



Is negative self-talk impacting the way you view yourself? Do you know negative self-talk can be an obstacle in your relationships? Dr. Candice Creasman chats about how to heal your inner critic.

Dr. Creasman is s a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor with a Masters in Rehabilitation Counseling and Psychology and a doctorate in Counseling and Counselor Education. She has been in practice for 15 years working with survivors of domestic violence and sexual trauma, individuals with addictions, chronic pain, mood and personality disorders, and severe mental illness. She uses Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and meditation to help clients work through trauma and live values-based lives.

Dr Creasman is offering a workshop in Intuitive Eating called “My Body, My Home” on September 14, 2019. For more information or to register please visit https://wellness-collaborative.org/mybodymyhome
You can also access Dr Creasman’s Insight Timer series on healing your inner critic at https://insighttimer.com/Dr.CandiceCreasman

What is Repeat Traumatization?



On this episode of High Heels and Heartache I chat with Dr. Amelia Kelley, owner and supervisor of Kelley Counseling & Wellness, about repeat traumatization. We discuss what happens when a person experiences more than one trauma in their life, how trauma changes the brain, and the role of nature vs. nurture have in repeat trauma. Dr. Kelley also teaches us about synaptic pruning!

Dr. Amelia Kelley, PhD, MS, LPC, ATR-P, RYT is an integrative therapist with 15 years of experience. She is trained in Art Therapy, Hypnotherapy, Yoga Therapy and other adjunctive treatments for trauma such as EMDR, Prolonged Exposure, Imagery Rehearsal Therapy and Trauma Sensitive Yoga.  She is the owner and supervisor of Kelley Counseling and Wellness in Cary, NC. Her practice is part of the Trauma Consortium at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana State University. She is a trained Level I and II Vinyasa Yoga teacher, a Yin Yoga certified teacher and a trained Restorative Yoga teacher. Dr. Kelley provides yoga therapy to individuals facing physical and mental health challenges to help reduce symptoms, address trauma in the body, help reduce addiction, restore balance and increase vitality. Her art therapy group work with the substance abuse population has been featured in the media as well as her advocacy for the licensure of Art Therapy in the state of NC. Dr. Kelley has been featured in the news as an expert discussing addiction to technology. She has also offered blog contributions in the areas of coping with ADHD in marriage as well as podcasts about Art Therapy in mental health. Additionally, she is a trained meditation teacher with a library of her teachings found on Insight Timer. Dr. Kelley is currently working on her first book examining healthy coping for an overactive nervous system in an overactive society.

For more information on Dr. Kelley and her practice, CLICK HERE.


What is Passive Aggression?



Signe Whitson chats about passive aggression.  We define passive aggression, talk about the different behaviors passive aggressive people employ, discuss the different levels of passive aggression, and explore what causes people to be passive aggressive.

Signe Whitson is an author and internationally-recognized speaker with 20 years of experience working with children, teens, and families.  She presents customized training workshops for professionals, parents, and students on topics related to bullying prevention, digital citizenship, managing anxiety and  anger in children, changing passive aggressive behavior, and intervening effectively in crisis situations in schools and treatment organizations

In her articles, books, and trainings, Signe provides down-to-earth, practical advice for navigating the daily challenges of living and working with children, tweens and teens.  As a mother of tween & teen daughters, Signe relates to parents on a personal level.

Signe is the Director of Counseling at The Swain School in Allentown, PA.   She is also the Chief Operating Officer of the Life Space Crisis Intervention Institute, an international training and certification program for turning crisis situations into learning opportunities for children and youth with chronic patterns of self-defeating behaviors.

She is the author of six books, including:
BULLY PREVENTION

The 8 Keys to End Bullying ACTIVITY BOOK for Kids & Tweens

The 8 Keys to End Bullying Activity book COMPANION GUIDE for Parents & Educators

8 Keys to End Bullying: Strategies for Parents & Schools

Friendship & Other Weapons: Group Activities to Help Young Girls Ages 5-11 to Cope with Bullying

ANGER MANAGEMENT

How to Be Angry: An Assertive Anger Expression Group Guide for Kids and Teens

PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR

The Angry Smile: The New Psychological Study of Passive-Aggressive Behavior at Home, at School, in Marriage & Close Relationships, in the Workplace, and Online.

You can follow her on Twitter @SigneWhitson, watch clips of her trainings on YouTube, read her articles on The Huffington Post or Psychology Today, or “Like” her on Facebook.


Is My Partner a Narcissist?



On this episode I chat with Dr. Elinor Greenberg about narcissism.  We discuss the difference between healthy narcissism and having the personality adaptation.  We answer the burning questions: Does a narcissist love you? And what causes the Narcissistic Personality Adaptation? We also outline the predictable stages of a romantic relationship with a narcissist.

Dr. Elinor Greenberg is an internationally renowned Gestalt therapist who specializes in the diagnosis and treatment of Borderline. Narcissistic, and Schizoid Personality Adaptations. Dr. Greenberg is the author of the book: Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations: The Pursuit of Love, Admiration, and Safety. She also has a free online blog called “Understanding Narcissism” on psychologytoday.com and has over 1000 posts on these topics on Quora.com. Dr. Greenberg travels the globe teaching other therapists about these topics.

You can access Dr. Greenberg’s book by clicking here.
Her blog can be found here.
Her posts on Quora can be found here.