Category Archives: relationship advice

What Do You Wish You Knew About Abusive Relationships?



On this episode, coauthor of Kendall Ann’s book “What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After An Abusive Relationship”, Dr. Amelia Kelley, stops by to answer reader and listener questions with Kendall Ann.  They discuss how the book came to fruition, suggest other books survivors can read to help them thrive, chat about the difference between an abusive partner and a “jerk” and much more.

Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist who has conducted research on the effects of exercise on ADHD symptoms as well as a the effects of resiliency on PTSD. She is a trained Hypno-therapist, Art therapist, HSP Therapist, EMDR-informed therapist, meditation teacher, as well as a Certified Yoga instructor integrating therapeutic yoga and psychotherapy. She is a presenter and writer in the “science-help” field focusing on Highly Sensitive Persons, trauma, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD.  She is a guest podcast presenter focusing on women’s issues and coping with the trauma of unhealthy relationships, as well as a coach and trainer for SAS’s Work/Life Program in Cary, NC and a resident trainer for the NC Art Therapy Institute. Her practice is also currently part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute.

For more information about Dr. Kelley visit her site and follow her social media HERE.

Click HERE to purchase, rate, or review What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship.


How Do You Help Someone Who Is in a Toxic Relationship?



Chelli Pumphrey, MA, LPC stops by to discuss what to do if someone in your life is in an unhealthy, toxic, or abusive relationship.

Chelli is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Relationship Coach, Reiki Master, and author with almost 30 years of clinical experience. She specializes in working with trauma, adult attachment, narcissistic abuse and pathological love relationships.

Chelli founded Trilogy Holistic Mental Health in Denver, CO, and currently serves as Clinical Director of both Trilogy and Strength in Motion Counseling in Boulder, CO. She also maintains her own private practice where she offers toxic relationship recovery coaching programs. As a Certified Integrated Medicine Mental Health Practitioner and Reiki practitioner, Chelli is passionate about integrative, holistic mental health, believing that mind, body, and spirit should be nurtured throughout the healing journey.

Chelli has hosted an internet talk show, Destination Love, and was a featured relationship coach in LEAP: The Coaching Movie with John Gray and Jack Canfield in 2018. Her book, Insight is 20/20:How To Trust Yourself To Protect Yourself From Narcissists and Toxic Partners will be published in May 2022 with New Degree Press.

SOCIAL LINKS:

https://www.facebook.com/chellipumphreytherapy

https://www.instagram.com/chellipumphrey/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/chellipumphrey/

 


Is Forgiveness Required for Trauma Recovery?



Trauma psychotherapist, Amanda Ann Gregory, discusses why forgiveness isn’t necessary in trauma recovery.  She walks us through possible messages we are internalizing about forgiveness and five reasons why forgiveness should not be imposed in the process of healing from trauma. Click here to check out her Psychology Today article “Why Forgiveness Isn’t Required in Trauma Recovery”.

Amanda Ann Gregory, LCPC, is a trauma psychotherapist, national speaker, and author. She holds licenses in the states of Illinois, Texas, and Missouri, as well as an EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Certification, and a National Counselor Certification. Gregory has provided individual, group, and family therapy for more than a dozen years in outpatient and residential settings and is currently in private practice in Chicago. Her work has appeared in Psychology Today, Psychotherapy Networker, Happiful Magazine, Addiction Professional, Adoption Today, All Creatures, Highlights Magazine, and New Therapist Magazine.

Gregory has served as a presenter for clinical conferences, employee trainings, and community events and has spoken for the ACA (American Counseling Association), NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness), the Missouri Department of Mental Health, Symmetry Counseling, the Missouri School Counselor Association, Prevent Child Abuse Illinois, and the Missouri Association of Marriage and Family Therapy to name a few. She tailors all presentations to meet the needs of your audience.

Click here to check out her awesome blog “Transforming Trauma Blog” on her website.


Why Should You Stop Giving Unsolicited Advice?



Sharon Martin stops by to discuss unsolicited advice.  She defines unsolicited advice, tells us how to stop giving and what we should do when we receive it!

Sharon Martin, MSW, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist who has been practicing in San Jose, CA for over 20 years. She specializes in helping individuals struggling with perfectionism, codependency, and people-pleasing. Her own struggle to feel “good enough”, inspired her passion for helping others learn to accept and love themselves. Sharon is the author of The Better Boundaries Workbook and The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism. Her work has also been featured in various media outlets including Psychology Today, Highly Sensitive Refuge, Web MD, and Psych Central.


How Can You Build Resilient Relationships?



Melody Stanford Martin joins the show to discuss her article “Five Practices of Resilient Relationships” and teach us how to enhance our conflict resolution skills.

Melody Stanford Martin is a social ethicist, communications expert, and author of Brave Talk: Building Resilient Relationships in the Face of Conflict (Broadleaf Books, 2020). She is the Founder of educational platform Brave Talk Project, the Founder & CEO of Cambridge Creative Group, a narrative marketing and design company specializing in non-profit outreach, and a regular contributor to Psychology Today. Melody grew up as a Pentecostal pastor’s kid in California and studied theology for ten years, obtaining her Masters of Divinity in 2016. During her graduate studies, she developed a passion for social ethics and anti-oppression work through the Religion and Conflict Transformation Program at Boston University School of Theology. Today, Melody works with people across all political backgrounds and religious traditions, focusing on rhetorical innovation, courageous community engagement, and out-of-the-box thinking to solve social problems. In addition to her work, Melody is also an artist, musician and avid gardener. She lives in Portland, Maine with her partner Corey and their dogs, Baxter and Benedict Cumberbatch.

To read the Five Practices of Resilient Relationships click here.

Click here to purchase Melody’s book Brave Talk.

For more information on Base Camp click here.

To sign up for Melody’s workshops and classes click here.


Is Porn Addiction A Disorder?



Sari Cooper joins the show to discuss if porn addiction is a disorder and how to communicate better when it comes to all things sex!

Sari Cooper  LCSW-R, CST is the Director of Center for Love and Sex, a group practice specializing in holistic embodied sex therapy and sex coaching in NYC. She is an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor who has been seeing individuals and couples from diverse cultural, religious, and sexual orientation and practices for over 20 years.  Sari presents frequently at international professional conferences on helping individuals and couples heal from infidelity, out of control sexual behaviors, sexual communication, low desire, sexual disorders, consensual non-monogamy and expanding sexual practices. She is Kink and Poly aware and a culturally attuned therapist who frequently sees interracial couples.

Sari is also the creator of Sex Esteem® LLC, a company devoted to enriching people’s confidence and knowledge about their own sexuality, the choices in their relationship agreements and how to communicate with partners about the sex life they desire. Through creative live events, webinars and her Sex Esteem® talks she is cultivating a community ready to take on the topic of erotic desire, sexual pleasure, empowerment and exploration .

She is frequently called upon in the media to comment on relationships and sexuality issues. She has been interviewed on outlets like: CBS This Morning, The Wall Street Journal, NBCLX, Women’s Health, Lifehacker, Bustle, HuffPost and Vice Media.

You can follow her on:

Facebook: @centerforloveandsex,

Twitter: @saricoopercls

Instagram: @saricoopersexesteem.

Her site is www.centerforloveandsex.com

You can sign up to stay connected about upcoming Sex Esteem® events at: centerforloveandsex.com/se-events.


Does Social Media Cause Depression?



Dr. Lea Lis, The Shameless Psychiatrist, stops by to chat about if social media causes depression in teens and adult. She gives a brief overview of her new book!

Dr. Lea Lis is the ‘Shameless Psychiatrist.’ She is a double board certified Adult and Child psychiatrist, and Assistant Clinical Professor at New York Medical College. She has a bustling practice in the Hamptons where she sees patients from all family arrangements.

Her book “No Shame: Real Talk With Your Kids About Sex, Self-Confidence, and Healthy Relationships” helps people pass down intergenerational wisdom, instead of trauma, by using modern psychotherapy techniques which she perfected throughout her many years of experience. She is an expert in the field of psychology, and hopes to change the way we speak about sex.

Learn more about Dr. Lea Lis here:

WEBSITE: www.drlealis.com

INSTAGRAM:[https://www.instagram..com/shamelesspsychiatrist/] @shamelesspsychiatrist

TWITTER: @shamelesspsych

FACEBOOK: @drlealis


Ask The Experts #1



Dr. Denise Fournier and Dr. Candice Creasman join me to answer your questions that have arisen during the pandemic.

You can find more information about Dr. Creasman’s Insight Timer class on Healing Your Inner Critic HERE

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Check out Dr Fournier’s Instagram meditations HERE


How Do You Attract, Maintain and End Relationships Mindfully?



Dr, Denise Fournier visits to discuss how to attract, maintain, and end relationships from a conscious, self-aware space.
Dr. Denise Fournier is a Miami-based psychotherapist, coach, university professor, and facilitator. With over 15 years in the mental health field, she’s worked with several hundred people, guiding them on their own unique growth journeys. She facilitates safe and sacred spaces for people to connect inward, work through challenges, define their own unique self-expression, and discover the healer and teacher living inside of them. Denise’s unique psychospiritual approach blends evidence-based mental health modalities with ancient traditions that unify the mind, body, and spirit.
Interested in receiving personalized coaching from Dr. Fournier? Beginning in Jan 2020 she will be providing remote services through  https://denisefournier.com/.

You can also check out her Psychology Today blog HERE

As well as her practice’s homepage HERE


Are You A People Pleaser?



Dr. Ilene Cohen answers my questions about people pleasing. She discusses the difference between being nice and being a people pleaser, the causes of people pleasing, and gives an eight step guide to stopping the compulsion!

Dr. Ilene is a psychotherapist, blogger and award-winning author of the popular self-help guides, When It’s Never About You and It’s Within You. Her work regularly appears in top psychology publications.

You can buy her books HERE!

And you can read her blog HERE!