Category Archives: Setting Boundaries

Are You A People Pleaser?



Dr. Ilene Cohen answers my questions about people pleasing. She discusses the difference between being nice and being a people pleaser, the causes of people pleasing, and gives an eight step guide to stopping the compulsion!

Dr. Ilene is a psychotherapist, blogger and award-winning author of the popular self-help guides, When It’s Never About You and It’s Within You. Her work regularly appears in top psychology publications.

You can buy her books HERE!

And you can read her blog HERE!


How Do You Set Boundaries in Relationships?



Do you know your boundaries? Do you know how to communicate those boundaries to the people in your life in a healthy manner? Do you worry that setting boundaries will hurt your relationships?

I chat with Darlene Lancer about the importance of setting boundaries and the best way to deliver those boundaries to those around you. Darlene explains the different types of boundaries and the steps necessary to set a boundary. We also discuss what to do with your boundary is ignored or disrespected.

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relationships and codependency. She’s counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books include Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You and Codependency for Dummies and seven ebooks, including: 10 Steps to Self-EsteemHow To Speak Your Mind – Become Assertive and Set LimitsDealing with a Narcissist: 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People, “I’m Not Perfect – I’m Only Human” – How to Beat Perfectionism, andFreedom from Guilt and Blame – Finding Self-Forgiveness. They’re available on Amazon, and other online booksellers and her website, www.whatiscodependency.com, where you can get a free copy of “14 Tips for Letting Go.” She’s a sought after speaker in media and at professional conferences. Find her on SoundcloudClypLinkedIn Youtube. Twitter @darlenelancer, and Facebook.