Category Archives: Setting Boundaries

What Are Six Steps Toward Recovery From A Toxic Relationship?



On this episode psychotherapist, Kaytee Gillis, LCSW-BACS, chats about her article 6 Steps Toward Recovery From a Toxic Relationship.  She describes the six steps, discusses how survivors can move between the steps,

Kaytee is a psychotherapist, author, and consultant with a passion for working with survivors of relationship and family trauma. Her first book, Invisible Bruises: How a Better Understanding of the Patterns of Domestic Violence Can Help Survivors Navigate the Legal System, released in 2021, sheds light on the ways that the legal system can perpetuate the cycle of domestic violence by failing to recognize patterns that would otherwise hold perpetrators accountable and protect survivors. Her new book, It’s not High Conflict, It’s Post Separation Abuse is set to be released in February.
Kaytee has been featured on Psychology Today, iheart radio, Psychotherapy Networker, The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show, CP24 News out of Toronto, Newsweek, The Mind Journal, Shaye Ganam’s radio show, and numerous others.

To get in touch with Kaytee:
www.kaytlyngillislcsw.com
Instagram: @KurleeKaytee
Instagram: @Claras_ _Voice – support for survivors and allies
Facebook: Claras Voice- a group in support of survivors and allies
Twitter: @Kaytee_Gillis
Blog: Invisible Bruises, Psychology Today


Are Any of the Relationships on “Love Is Blind” Abusive?



On this episode, Dr. Isabelle Morley discusses the toxic and abusive relationship behaviors she saw on the latest season of “Love Is Blind”. We chat about what responsibility Netflix has to contestants and viewers, and how Netflix can protect both groups.

Isabelle Morley, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist, writer, and co-founder of The Relationship Coaches. She specializes in helping people navigate their romantic relationships. Dr. Morley has trained in several couples therapy orientations and does extensive work with couples and individuals on healing and strengthening their relationships. This includes working on communication, emotional intimacy, healthy boundary setting, dependency awareness, and conflict resolution skills. She is a writer for Psychology Today, and in her blog, Love Them or Leave Them, she analyzes on-screen romantic relationships in scripted shows and reality television. As co-founder of The Relationship Coaches, Dr. Morley provides evidence-based but accessible information on how to form healthy relationships through PDFs, intensives, and retreats. She lives in Massachusetts with her husband, two daughters, and a toy poodle named Clifford.
To get in touch with Dr. Morley, please visit her website and social media:
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And don’t forget to sign her petition to Netflix to help protect contestants and viewers from abusive relationships HERE

How Does The Pressure To Be The “Perfect Victim” Affect Survivors of Abuse?



Julie Sweet stops by to speak about the phenomen known as the “perfect victim” and how it affects survivors of abuse and violence.

Julie is an experienced Clinical Psychotherapist of 10 years with a demonstrated history of working in the mental health and human services industry. Skilled in Drug and Alcohol counselling, counselling adult survivors of child sexual abuse (CSA), Trauma Informed clinical practice, crisis counselling, family counselling, advocacy, negotiation, business planning, Customer Relationship Management (CRM) and media relations. Julie has strong community and social services professional experience and a Bachelor of Counselling and Human Change (Psychotherapy) focused in Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy from Jansen Newman Institute.
She is an approved Counsellor with the Approved Counselling Service, Victims Services, NSW. and an approved Counsellor on the Blue Knot Foundation Helpline Referral Database.

To get in touch with Julie please visit any of the following:
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How To Date After An Abusive Relationship



On this episode, Dr. Aimee Daramus stops by to offer advice on how to date after an abusive relationship.

Aimee Daramus, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in chronic mental illness. She works in private practice at Urban Balance in Chicago, and is an adjunct professor at Harold Washington College. She wrote a book, Understanding Bipolar Disorder: The Essential Family Guide, and her new book on Relationship OCD is coming out in February. She loves classic horror movies, has been kicked out of bookstores at last call, and is a guest co-host on the Bipolar Girl podcast.


What Do You Wish You Knew About Abusive Relationships?



On this episode, coauthor of Kendall Ann’s book “What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After An Abusive Relationship”, Dr. Amelia Kelley, stops by to answer reader and listener questions with Kendall Ann.  They discuss how the book came to fruition, suggest other books survivors can read to help them thrive, chat about the difference between an abusive partner and a “jerk” and much more.

Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist who has conducted research on the effects of exercise on ADHD symptoms as well as a the effects of resiliency on PTSD. She is a trained Hypno-therapist, Art therapist, HSP Therapist, EMDR-informed therapist, meditation teacher, as well as a Certified Yoga instructor integrating therapeutic yoga and psychotherapy. She is a presenter and writer in the “science-help” field focusing on Highly Sensitive Persons, trauma, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD.  She is a guest podcast presenter focusing on women’s issues and coping with the trauma of unhealthy relationships, as well as a coach and trainer for SAS’s Work/Life Program in Cary, NC and a resident trainer for the NC Art Therapy Institute. Her practice is also currently part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute.

For more information about Dr. Kelley visit her site and follow her social media HERE.

Click HERE to purchase, rate, or review What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship.


What Should I Do If I’m In A Relationship With A Narcissist?



Darlene Lancer stops by to chat about what to do if you are in a relationship with a narcissist.  Darlene is an internationally sought after relationship expert and media spokesperson on narcissism and codependency, a psychotherapist and author of 9 books, including Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist, Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You and Codependency for Dummies.  She’s counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her ebooks include: 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, How To Speak Your Mind – Become Assertive and Set Limits, Dealing with a Narcissist: 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People, “I’m Not Perfect – I’m Only Human” – How to Beat Perfectionism, and Freedom from Guilt and Blame – Finding Self-Forgiveness. They’re available on Amazon, other online booksellers and her website, www.whatiscodependency.com, where visitors can get a free copy of “14 Tips for Letting Go”.
To find Darlene’s fantastic resources please visit:

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How Do You Help Someone Who Is in a Toxic Relationship?



Chelli Pumphrey, MA, LPC stops by to discuss what to do if someone in your life is in an unhealthy, toxic, or abusive relationship.

Chelli is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Relationship Coach, Reiki Master, and author with almost 30 years of clinical experience. She specializes in working with trauma, adult attachment, narcissistic abuse and pathological love relationships.

Chelli founded Trilogy Holistic Mental Health in Denver, CO, and currently serves as Clinical Director of both Trilogy and Strength in Motion Counseling in Boulder, CO. She also maintains her own private practice where she offers toxic relationship recovery coaching programs. As a Certified Integrated Medicine Mental Health Practitioner and Reiki practitioner, Chelli is passionate about integrative, holistic mental health, believing that mind, body, and spirit should be nurtured throughout the healing journey.

Chelli has hosted an internet talk show, Destination Love, and was a featured relationship coach in LEAP: The Coaching Movie with John Gray and Jack Canfield in 2018. Her book, Insight is 20/20:How To Trust Yourself To Protect Yourself From Narcissists and Toxic Partners will be published in May 2022 with New Degree Press.

SOCIAL LINKS:

https://www.facebook.com/chellipumphreytherapy

https://www.instagram.com/chellipumphrey/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/chellipumphrey/

 


Is Forgiveness Required for Trauma Recovery?



Trauma psychotherapist, Amanda Ann Gregory, discusses why forgiveness isn’t necessary in trauma recovery.  She walks us through possible messages we are internalizing about forgiveness and five reasons why forgiveness should not be imposed in the process of healing from trauma. Click here to check out her Psychology Today article “Why Forgiveness Isn’t Required in Trauma Recovery”.

Amanda Ann Gregory, LCPC, is a trauma psychotherapist, national speaker, and author. She holds licenses in the states of Illinois, Texas, and Missouri, as well as an EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Certification, and a National Counselor Certification. Gregory has provided individual, group, and family therapy for more than a dozen years in outpatient and residential settings and is currently in private practice in Chicago. Her work has appeared in Psychology Today, Psychotherapy Networker, Happiful Magazine, Addiction Professional, Adoption Today, All Creatures, Highlights Magazine, and New Therapist Magazine.

Gregory has served as a presenter for clinical conferences, employee trainings, and community events and has spoken for the ACA (American Counseling Association), NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness), the Missouri Department of Mental Health, Symmetry Counseling, the Missouri School Counselor Association, Prevent Child Abuse Illinois, and the Missouri Association of Marriage and Family Therapy to name a few. She tailors all presentations to meet the needs of your audience.

Click here to check out her awesome blog “Transforming Trauma Blog” on her website.


Why Should You Stop Giving Unsolicited Advice?



Sharon Martin stops by to discuss unsolicited advice.  She defines unsolicited advice, tells us how to stop giving and what we should do when we receive it!

Sharon Martin, MSW, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist who has been practicing in San Jose, CA for over 20 years. She specializes in helping individuals struggling with perfectionism, codependency, and people-pleasing. Her own struggle to feel “good enough”, inspired her passion for helping others learn to accept and love themselves. Sharon is the author of The Better Boundaries Workbook and The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism. Her work has also been featured in various media outlets including Psychology Today, Highly Sensitive Refuge, Web MD, and Psych Central.


Is Porn Addiction A Disorder?



Sari Cooper joins the show to discuss if porn addiction is a disorder and how to communicate better when it comes to all things sex!

Sari Cooper  LCSW-R, CST is the Director of Center for Love and Sex, a group practice specializing in holistic embodied sex therapy and sex coaching in NYC. She is an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor who has been seeing individuals and couples from diverse cultural, religious, and sexual orientation and practices for over 20 years.  Sari presents frequently at international professional conferences on helping individuals and couples heal from infidelity, out of control sexual behaviors, sexual communication, low desire, sexual disorders, consensual non-monogamy and expanding sexual practices. She is Kink and Poly aware and a culturally attuned therapist who frequently sees interracial couples.

Sari is also the creator of Sex Esteem® LLC, a company devoted to enriching people’s confidence and knowledge about their own sexuality, the choices in their relationship agreements and how to communicate with partners about the sex life they desire. Through creative live events, webinars and her Sex Esteem® talks she is cultivating a community ready to take on the topic of erotic desire, sexual pleasure, empowerment and exploration .

She is frequently called upon in the media to comment on relationships and sexuality issues. She has been interviewed on outlets like: CBS This Morning, The Wall Street Journal, NBCLX, Women’s Health, Lifehacker, Bustle, HuffPost and Vice Media.

You can follow her on:

Facebook: @centerforloveandsex,

Twitter: @saricoopercls

Instagram: @saricoopersexesteem.

Her site is www.centerforloveandsex.com

You can sign up to stay connected about upcoming Sex Esteem® events at: centerforloveandsex.com/se-events.