Category Archives: IntimatePartnerViolence

What Do You Wish You Knew About Abusive Relationships?



On this episode, coauthor of Kendall Ann’s book “What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After An Abusive Relationship”, Dr. Amelia Kelley, stops by to answer reader and listener questions with Kendall Ann.  They discuss how the book came to fruition, suggest other books survivors can read to help them thrive, chat about the difference between an abusive partner and a “jerk” and much more.

Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist who has conducted research on the effects of exercise on ADHD symptoms as well as a the effects of resiliency on PTSD. She is a trained Hypno-therapist, Art therapist, HSP Therapist, EMDR-informed therapist, meditation teacher, as well as a Certified Yoga instructor integrating therapeutic yoga and psychotherapy. She is a presenter and writer in the “science-help” field focusing on Highly Sensitive Persons, trauma, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD.  She is a guest podcast presenter focusing on women’s issues and coping with the trauma of unhealthy relationships, as well as a coach and trainer for SAS’s Work/Life Program in Cary, NC and a resident trainer for the NC Art Therapy Institute. Her practice is also currently part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute.

For more information about Dr. Kelley visit her site and follow her social media HERE.

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What Should I Do If I’m In A Relationship With A Narcissist?



Darlene Lancer stops by to chat about what to do if you are in a relationship with a narcissist.  Darlene is an internationally sought after relationship expert and media spokesperson on narcissism and codependency, a psychotherapist and author of 9 books, including Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist, Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You and Codependency for Dummies.  She’s counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her ebooks include: 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, How To Speak Your Mind – Become Assertive and Set Limits, Dealing with a Narcissist: 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People, “I’m Not Perfect – I’m Only Human” – How to Beat Perfectionism, and Freedom from Guilt and Blame – Finding Self-Forgiveness. They’re available on Amazon, other online booksellers and her website, www.whatiscodependency.com, where visitors can get a free copy of “14 Tips for Letting Go”.
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Love Heals-The Story of Thistle Farms



Dorris Walker-Taylor, Senior Ambassador for Thistle Farms, joins the show to discuss how Thistle Farms, a nonprofit social enterprise dedicated to helping women survivors recover and heal from prostitution, trafficking, and addiction changed the direction of her life.  Thistle Farms is a residential program that provides housing, case management, healthcare, counseling, education, and employment for two years – free of charge.

It was a true joy speaking with Dorris and listening to her story is guaranteed to brighten your day.

 

 

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How Does Racism Affect Black Survivors of Domestic Violence?



Gretta Gordy Gardner and Megan Simmons from Ujima: The National Center on Violence Against Women in the Black Community, discuss how systemic racism affects black survivors of domestic violence.

Gretta Gordy Gardner, Esq., is the Deputy Director and co-founder of Ujima, Inc.: The National Center on Violence Against Women in the Black Community, a project of the DC Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Ms. Gardner’s career as a legal advisor for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault was inspired by her early work as a prosecutor in the Domestic Violence Unit of the Baltimore City State’s Attorney’s Office. She has worked for two decades to help shape guidelines, policies, and procedures that local, state, and federal policy makers and college/university campuses can use to end intimate partner violence and racial bias. She is licensed to practice law in DC, MD, TX, and the Supreme Court of the United States and is a certified mediator. Ms. Gardner sits on the Board of Trustees for Garrison Forest School and belongs to a multitude of local, state, and national committees that address violence against women and their children. She is the proud mom of two boys who love basketball and make a lot of noise.

Megan Simmons, MPA/JD, is the Sr. Policy Advisor of Ujima, Inc.: The National Center on Violence Against Women in the Black Community, a project of the DC coalition Against Domestic Violence. Ms. Simmons’ education in Women’s Studies and Political Science was the catalyst for her career in legal compliance, policy, and advocacy work. She has served as a Federal Agent and was tasked with investigating sexual assault for the Naval Criminal Investigative Service (NCIS). She was also collaterally tasked with representing law enforcement on various committees, including holistic approaches to combating violence against women attached to the Navy installations. She later earned a law degree wherein she combined her education and her experience by contributing to policy, and conducting investigations into allegations of sexual assault within higher education. Ms. Simmons has conducted various trainings on sexual harassment awareness, Equal Employment Opportunity, investigation execution, and diversity and inclusion. She spends her spare time cooking, bike riding, and reading.

For more information about the mission of Ujima, click here.

For more information about intimate partner violence in the black community, click here.


Money and Relationships



Dr. Brad Klontz sits down to talk all things money and relationships! We chat about financial infidelity, money disorders, the lies we tell ourselves about money, how to discuss money with your partner and more!

Bradley T. Klontz, Psy.D., CFP® is a Founder of the Financial Psychology Institute® and an Associate Professor of Practice in Financial Psychology at Creighton University Heider College of Business. He is a Managing Principal of Your Mental Wealth® Advisors, a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, and a Former President of the Hawaii Psychological Association. He has partnered with organizations including JP Morgan Chase and H&R Block in efforts to help raise public awareness around issues related to financial health and financial psychology.

Dr. Klontz was awarded the Innovative Practice Presidential Citation from the American Psychological Association for his application of psychological interventions to help people with money and wealth issues and his innovative practice in financial psychology for practitioners across the country.

Dr. Klontz has been a columnist for the Journal of Financial Planning, On Wall Street, and PsychologyToday.com and has co-authored/co-edited five books on the psychology of money. His work has been featured on ABC News’ 20/20, Good Morning America, and in USA Today, The Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Time, Kiplinger’s, Money Magazine, NPR and many other media outlets and professional magazines and journals.

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Silencing Your Inner Critic



Is negative self-talk impacting the way you view yourself? Do you know negative self-talk can be an obstacle in your relationships? Dr. Candice Creasman chats about how to heal your inner critic.

Dr. Creasman is s a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor with a Masters in Rehabilitation Counseling and Psychology and a doctorate in Counseling and Counselor Education. She has been in practice for 15 years working with survivors of domestic violence and sexual trauma, individuals with addictions, chronic pain, mood and personality disorders, and severe mental illness. She uses Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and meditation to help clients work through trauma and live values-based lives.

Dr Creasman is offering a workshop in Intuitive Eating called “My Body, My Home” on September 14, 2019. For more information or to register please visit https://wellness-collaborative.org/mybodymyhome
You can also access Dr Creasman’s Insight Timer series on healing your inner critic at https://insighttimer.com/Dr.CandiceCreasman

What is Spiritually Integrated Psychotherapy?



Missy Stancil joins me to chat about spiritually integrated psychotherapy.  We define spirituality and religion and chat about how trained therapists can use both to help survivors of trauma. Missy discusses how she weaves spirituality into her therapy sessions for those who are interested in including it.  We also chat why spiritually integrated therapy can be highly beneficial for survivors of trauma.

Missy Stancil is a Licensed Professional Counselor and National Certified Counselor.  She earned a Master of Arts degree in Mental Health Counseling from Campbell University and a Bachelor’s degree in Human Geography from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.  She also completed a three-year postgraduate residency in spiritually integrated psychotherapy from Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center, as well as the FaithHealth Fellowship.  She furthered her training through the Addressing Health Disparities Leadership Program through the National Council for Behavioral Health and the LGBTQ Academy Certificate from the American Counseling Association.


How Does Trauma Affect Your Body?



Dr. Amelia Kelley sits down to chat about how trauma affects the body and strategies that you can use to reduce that trauma.  Dr. Kelley is an expert in using adjunctive therapies along with cognitive therapy to help those who have experienced trauma.  Dr. Kelley defines trauma and explains how trauma is stored in the body. She describes how practices like reiki, therapeutic touch, qigong, yoga, therapeutic massage, and meditation (which are all offered at her practice, Kelley Counseling and Wellness) in conjunction with traditional therapy help to reduce trauma’s impact on the body. Dr. Kelley even walks us through a mindfulness meditation!

Dr. Amelia Kelley, PhD, MS, LPC, ATR-P, RYT is licensed therapist with 15 years of experience. She is trained in Art Therapy, Hypnotherapy, Yoga Therapy and other adjunctive treatments for trauma such as EMDR, Prolonged Exposure, Imagery Rehearsal Therapy and Trauma Sensitive Yoga. She is the owner and supervisor of Kelley Counseling and Wellness in Cary, NC. Her practice is part of the Trauma Consortium at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana State University. Dr. Kelley has studied the effect of HIIT exercise on adults with ADHD as well as the effect of music on childhood creativity. She is a trained Level I and II Vinyasa Yoga teacher, a Yin Yoga certified teacher and a trained Restorative Yoga teacher. Dr. Kelley provides yoga therapy to individuals facing physical and mental health challenges to help reduce symptoms, address trauma in the body, help reduce addiction, restore balance and increase vitality. Her art therapy group work with the substance abuse population has been featured in the media as well as her advocacy for the licensure of Art Therapy in the state of NC. Dr. Kelley has been featured in the news as an expert discussing addiction to technology. She has also offered blog contributions in the areas of coping with ADHD in marriage as well as podcasts about Art Therapy in mental health. Additionally, she is a trained meditation teacher with a library of her teachings found on insight timer. Dr. Kelley is currently working on her first book examining healthy coping for an overactive nervous system in an overactive society.

For more information on Kelley Counseling and Wellness CLICK HERE

To access Dr. Kelley’s Insight Timer Meditation Page CLICK HERE


Is There a Link Between Trauma and Addiction?



I interview Jessika Sands about the link between trauma and addiction.  We discuss brain development, where trauma is stored in the brain, and why survivors of trauma are sometimes more likely to develop an addiction.

Jessika Sands, MA, LPC, LAC is a licensed therapist, licensed addiction therapist and EMDR consultant. She provides EMDR, Brainspotting, and substance use therapy at AspenRidge Recovery and in private practice. She recently started a Neurofeedback business.  She specializes in complex trauma, dissociative disorders, and chemical addiction.

Jessika is a trauma survivor that sought her own therapy at many different points in her life. She’s found the continued work on her own self-growth has given her the ability to truly help other trauma survivors. She believes each person’s journey is unique and has admiration for the clients she has had the opportunity to work with and looks forward to each new possibility of contributing to healing.

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EMDR: Click Here
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Neurofeedback: Click Here  and Here