Category Archives: Setting Boundaries

Is Forgiveness Required for Trauma Recovery?



Trauma psychotherapist, Amanda Ann Gregory, discusses why forgiveness isn’t necessary in trauma recovery.  She walks us through possible messages we are internalizing about forgiveness and five reasons why forgiveness should not be imposed in the process of healing from trauma. Click here to check out her Psychology Today article “Why Forgiveness Isn’t Required in Trauma Recovery”.

Amanda Ann Gregory, LCPC, is a trauma psychotherapist, national speaker, and author. She holds licenses in the states of Illinois, Texas, and Missouri, as well as an EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Certification, and a National Counselor Certification. Gregory has provided individual, group, and family therapy for more than a dozen years in outpatient and residential settings and is currently in private practice in Chicago. Her work has appeared in Psychology Today, Psychotherapy Networker, Happiful Magazine, Addiction Professional, Adoption Today, All Creatures, Highlights Magazine, and New Therapist Magazine.

Gregory has served as a presenter for clinical conferences, employee trainings, and community events and has spoken for the ACA (American Counseling Association), NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness), the Missouri Department of Mental Health, Symmetry Counseling, the Missouri School Counselor Association, Prevent Child Abuse Illinois, and the Missouri Association of Marriage and Family Therapy to name a few. She tailors all presentations to meet the needs of your audience.

Click here to check out her awesome blog “Transforming Trauma Blog” on her website.


Why Should You Stop Giving Unsolicited Advice?



Sharon Martin stops by to discuss unsolicited advice.  She defines unsolicited advice, tells us how to stop giving and what we should do when we receive it!

Sharon Martin, MSW, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist who has been practicing in San Jose, CA for over 20 years. She specializes in helping individuals struggling with perfectionism, codependency, and people-pleasing. Her own struggle to feel “good enough”, inspired her passion for helping others learn to accept and love themselves. Sharon is the author of The Better Boundaries Workbook and The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism. Her work has also been featured in various media outlets including Psychology Today, Highly Sensitive Refuge, Web MD, and Psych Central.


Is Porn Addiction A Disorder?



Sari Cooper joins the show to discuss if porn addiction is a disorder and how to communicate better when it comes to all things sex!

Sari Cooper  LCSW-R, CST is the Director of Center for Love and Sex, a group practice specializing in holistic embodied sex therapy and sex coaching in NYC. She is an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor who has been seeing individuals and couples from diverse cultural, religious, and sexual orientation and practices for over 20 years.  Sari presents frequently at international professional conferences on helping individuals and couples heal from infidelity, out of control sexual behaviors, sexual communication, low desire, sexual disorders, consensual non-monogamy and expanding sexual practices. She is Kink and Poly aware and a culturally attuned therapist who frequently sees interracial couples.

Sari is also the creator of Sex Esteem® LLC, a company devoted to enriching people’s confidence and knowledge about their own sexuality, the choices in their relationship agreements and how to communicate with partners about the sex life they desire. Through creative live events, webinars and her Sex Esteem® talks she is cultivating a community ready to take on the topic of erotic desire, sexual pleasure, empowerment and exploration .

She is frequently called upon in the media to comment on relationships and sexuality issues. She has been interviewed on outlets like: CBS This Morning, The Wall Street Journal, NBCLX, Women’s Health, Lifehacker, Bustle, HuffPost and Vice Media.

You can follow her on:

Facebook: @centerforloveandsex,

Twitter: @saricoopercls

Instagram: @saricoopersexesteem.

Her site is www.centerforloveandsex.com

You can sign up to stay connected about upcoming Sex Esteem® events at: centerforloveandsex.com/se-events.


Are You A People Pleaser?



Dr. Ilene Cohen answers my questions about people pleasing. She discusses the difference between being nice and being a people pleaser, the causes of people pleasing, and gives an eight step guide to stopping the compulsion!

Dr. Ilene is a psychotherapist, blogger and award-winning author of the popular self-help guides, When It’s Never About You and It’s Within You. Her work regularly appears in top psychology publications.

You can buy her books HERE!

And you can read her blog HERE!


How Do You Set Boundaries in Relationships?



Do you know your boundaries? Do you know how to communicate those boundaries to the people in your life in a healthy manner? Do you worry that setting boundaries will hurt your relationships?

I chat with Darlene Lancer about the importance of setting boundaries and the best way to deliver those boundaries to those around you. Darlene explains the different types of boundaries and the steps necessary to set a boundary. We also discuss what to do with your boundary is ignored or disrespected.

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relationships and codependency. She’s counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books include Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You and Codependency for Dummies and seven ebooks, including: 10 Steps to Self-EsteemHow To Speak Your Mind – Become Assertive and Set LimitsDealing with a Narcissist: 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People, “I’m Not Perfect – I’m Only Human” – How to Beat Perfectionism, andFreedom from Guilt and Blame – Finding Self-Forgiveness. They’re available on Amazon, and other online booksellers and her website, www.whatiscodependency.com, where you can get a free copy of “14 Tips for Letting Go.” She’s a sought after speaker in media and at professional conferences. Find her on SoundcloudClypLinkedIn Youtube. Twitter @darlenelancer, and Facebook.